I Have an Answer for Everything

I was in an online discussion that evolved into interpersonal relationships and dating. What follows is one guy’s comments about womens’ attitudes toward tough guys and then my response. I like when discussions take turns like this.

> > Isn’t this the prevailing thought of women though?
> I have come across many women who don’t particularly like tough guys.
> (thank God)… however even such women often seem to treat these tough
> guys with a lot more respect and apparent interest, than they would
> treat me with. Later of course they will tell me that they totally
> dislike that personality (the tough guy)… so I try to understand.
>
> Something that is both nice and at times not very nice about being a
> sensitive sort of guy… is that I am often assimilated by the women… as
> ‘one of them’.. this fun at times as women totally drop their guard
> with me and we enjoy deep and meaningful ties… this can be a pain
> however if I actually want some one to like me… Also when the tough
> guy.. walks in and drops a comment and my (girls) friends blush…
> its not easy being me…

Women say they don’t like tough guys. But tough guys get more than sensitive guys. This is an empirically proven fact validated by the Surgen General, computed by NASA, and four out five dentists recommend it. So this tells me that while on an intellectual level a woman doesn’t want to be dominated, in a deep-seated psychological level, I think the tough guy translates into the archetype of that heroic tough guy caveman who can tear the sabre-tooth rabbit limb from limb to protect the family. And women react to that. Ergo, tough guys get more.

7 Responses to “I Have an Answer for Everything”

  1. rae says:

    Tough guys make a woman feel safe and protected in public.

    They also let us domiminate them in bed cause the tough guy routine is just a public persona. We all know that they over compensate for their low self esteem and insecurities.

  2. Mexigogue says:

    I almost got mad at that but then I remembered that I’m not a tough guy. I’m a quiet non-confrontational guy. I don’t have a philosophical problem with punching someone but if that ever happens it will be for a damn good reason and it won’t be preceded with any bravado talk.

    The only time I’ve almost lost it in recent memory was the time some jackass got mad because he thought we skipped him on the pool table so he went to my game and progress (in which I only had one ball left before the 8) and he pushed the balls all around the table effectively ending the game.

    I unscrewed my pool stick and grabbed the fat end of it ready to play Louisevill slugger with the man’s head. The “D” saw it and shook his head no so I recollected my senses and the incident went by without any ramifications. Thank god for Ghandi or I’d be banned or in jail right now.

  3. Phelps says:

    That blush may be as much fear and embarassment as desire. Check out Mrs. Du Toit on the everyday fear a woman has to deal with. It was an eye-opener for me. I already knew it on an intellectual level, but I hadn’t groked it before her essay.

    http://www.mrsdutoit.com/ee/index.php?/weblog/single/fear_itself/

  4. guy in the UNLV jacket says:

    The guy who posted that coooent must be gay! In my journeys I’ve found that with the ladies, nice guys finish last! Every time! I don’t have a rand corporation study to quiote I would have to say that 10% of the men out there bang 90% of the women and if you are in that top 10% then you can be as much of a jerk to a chick and she will stick around forever as long as you lay the dick down right!!! The same goes for womenm, a chick can be a total bitch and men will fall and swoon over her, as soon as she turns nice dudes will fuck her over at every turn.
    This afternoon I was helping my friend, Ty tear down some dry wall. There was a guy helping, I think his name was Chip. Everybody commented that Chip was a real nice guy. Come 4:00 Chip had to leave and take his son to his soon to be ex-wife’s house. Chip is going through a divorice. Come to find out Chip’s wife cheated on him with 30 dudes! That is 30 that he knows about. It is probably more like 90! Nice guys finish last!

  5. Ghandi for the "D" says:

    I had a friend that placed bugs in his house to catch his wife cheating. Now before everyone gets all up in arms. She was a Wh— a big one. The problem is that you have to watch what you ask for sometimes. He ended up hearing things from her that she never said to him. It was mad crazy. She was a pure WH—-. He started crying all the time and talking abou the tapes with us all the time.

    I don’t ever want to record anything! If I think she is cheating she probably is. I can judge that type of stuff with some women. That would be enough for me to get out. I don’t want to hear phone sex or her telling her friends and family all about the guy. That would make me go ballistic!!! Like sniper on type of the Capital type of stuff!

  6. Mexigogue says:

    Hearing what your woman says behind your back is like going to the slaughterhouse and watching how they make hot dogs. Some things are just not meant to be known. You will end up sitting on the curb crying with your stomach growling eating an empty hot dog bun.

  7. Phelps says:

    I think that the point where you find yourself in the Spy Store, it is time to just hand her off to your cousin. Of course, that might explain why I don’t have a woman right now.