E-Mails, Blogs, Tact (or Not)

Kelley reads the blog. She’s my co-worker, one I showed the blog too after I had written something that made me laugh my head off. Laughing at my own jokes, that’s pretty pathetic. So now, from time to time, Kelley will E-mail me with a comment about something that was written on the blog. She doesn’t comment on the blog page itself.

We call these people lurkers when they hit up sites, read what everyone else has to say in the comments, but do not particpate on the site itself. Most people would probably be weirded out by someone in the office being privvy to all this information, opinons and whatnot, but from previous conversations I’ve had with her I think we hate the same people so I’m not really concerned. That and when I talk about situation with people here at work I don’t mention them by their real name. Let’s take for example the coffee post I wrote about, for the sake of argument let’s call him Sam. Oh shit, wait. His name really is Sam. Oh well, too late. I don’t feel like backspacing today. But at any rate I don’t usually use real names.

Then today I’m reading a news article about the non privacy in E-mail at work. Well duh. The computer equipment belongs to the company, you don’t have an expectation of privacy in their equipment. That’s why I might express my opinion about a coworker or two on an E-mail but I don’t dog the higher ups. That’s like walking up into a kung fu school and poking people in the chest.

For the most part I tend to not put things down in black in white unless I feel like I am willing to defend them in real life. The only thing that really stymies me is when I say something that’s demonstrably true and people tell me I shouldn’t say it anyway. And I’m like, but dude! I’m not lying!! And they shake their had and say but don’t say that anyway. .. that’s just wrong. I don’t get that.

Like one of my earlier blogs about Lansing being the mixed race capital of the world. I say this knowning full well all five of my kids are mixed so it’s not an insult, it’s an observation. Then yesterday I was riding on the East side with my brother and we saw a same race couple!!!! I was just about to roll down the window and say “OH MY GOD!!! YOU’RE SICK!! YOU’RE SICK!!! THINK OF HOW YOUR CHILDREN ARE GONNA BE OSTRACIZED WHEN THEY’RE THE ONLY SAME RACE KIDS IN THEIR CLASS!!!! WON’T SOMEONE PLEEEEEEEASE THINK OF THE CHILDREN!!!!!!??????!!!!!”

I thought about rolling down the window and screaming that, but I refrained. It was a small victory for civility but one giant loss for free speech.

11 Responses to “E-Mails, Blogs, Tact (or Not)”

  1. THE "D" says:

    I had a comment that took me 20 minutes to write. I realized that this is not my blog and erased it. Hell! that never stopped me from writing novels before huh?

    Mike we will have to discuss this later at Leroy’s.

  2. Mexigogue says:

    Sonofagun. I’ve written stuff before and lost it accidently. That is the worst feeling in the world for me, writing something good, then not having it anymore. I hope you remember every bit of what you had written!

  3. THE "D" says:

    Hey tell me this! Why is it that sometimes at Leroy’s you get a few ummmmmm….. non-black women that try really hard to act….for lack of a better term “Black”. You can always pick up the signs:

    1) High Hair
    2) Colorful 4 inch nails
    3) LOUD language (usually curse words)
    4) Usually a Big Ghetto Booty
    5) Big Ghetto “Puppies”

    Now my problem is that the actions of these women are not specific to a particular race….It is GHETTO!!!!! Now the thing they don’t understand is that because they see some black women act “GHETTO” it in no way depicts all black women. I don’t know where I am going with this but I just say a women that could not get into her car becasue her nails were too long and her hair would not fit in the car…… I could not let that go without talking about it on the bLog.

  4. Mexigogue says:

    How’s that little public service announcement that used to come on during the cartoons when I was a kid: “Be proud of who you are: be yourself!”

    That’s what’s cool about Ken. He might hang around a bunch of black people but that don’t mean he has to go around grabbin’ his nuts and wearin’ his pants half off his ass. I can’t stand a stereotype or any race, and stereotype imitators are even worse! I mean worser! Nawm sayin’ dawg? Fo shizzle! B!

  5. Sir Courvoisier says:

    “If you don’t rate then overcompensate”…The Offspring

  6. Phelps says:

    I’ve never done that. I did almost get my ass kicked when I was working at the black indie label, when everyone was sitting around in the studio, shooting the shit. You know how you subconciously pick up slang from the people around you? I got to Ni- in the middle of a sentence and realized what I was saying. That’s the closest I’ve ever come to a beatdown, and it was entirely unintentional. (It was going to be used as a generic term for a person since I was including myself in the term, rather than a racial epithet. Since I was the beloved White Mike, I probably could have gotten away with it ONE time, but not two.)

    I have been saying “B” too much lately, though. I picked that up from Scarface in Half Baked, B. Oh, and I’ve been saying “word” all the time, too, but I picked that up from John Cena, B. And neither of them is black.

  7. Mexigogue says:

    Language does tend to rub off. You don’t have to worry about that with Chinese people though. YOu never hear them say “That Chen Wu, he da dog, I like him, he my chink boy, let me tew roo!”

  8. THE "D" says:

    I truly believe that you can only improve your life and that of the people around you if you share cultures, beliefs, ideas and old burnt out ex-wife stories. I am glad that someone else sees some of the things that make me go HUH! WTF!

    I loved that overcompensate comment Sir!

  9. The Sicilian says:

    Language has never really rubbed off on me, I think I was just born with the knowledge of how to say the F word. Go figure.

  10. THE "D" says:

    Heyyou must have been really busy this weekend? How was Leroy’s?

  11. Mexigogue says:

    I’ve had my kids at my house since Thursday. When they’re over it’s hard to get at the computer and when I do get there I can’t think well enough to write because THEY’RE SO DAAAAAMN LOUD!!! Haha! But I should be coming up with something any minute now. Aaaaaaaany minute now. . . ..